2️⃣ A husband told his wife that he wishes her to say "okay" and "yes" to whatever he says to avoid further discussions or arguments. What would you do if you were in her shoes? Would you agree and nod to everything even when it is against your will or feelings? Please share your thoughts.
Being a "yes" woman is possibly the worst thing any woman can become, in a relationship. Having to agree to everything your husband wishes, just to avoid arguments and make him happy while suppressing your own voice and feelings, is to tell yourself that you don’t count at all and that you are as insignificant as a fly, and that the man’s interests and opinions are what really matters, not your own. Seriously? In this time and age?
This is an inherently imbalanced relationship and I can never see myself putting up with that form of self-inflicted injustice, to sacrifice my own identity just so I can appease someone else, no! And that has got to be one hugely self-centred husband who I should have no dealings with in the first place, and with who if a relationship already existed under some false pretext, I should simply walk away without as much as a backward glance. Why would he want to dominate and make me become nothing more than a doormat? Except of course he has some serious psychological issues to deal with and in which case, he should already sort himself out before embarking on any relationship. How can one think that a relationship built on that premise would succeed? A relationship that is an outright lie. A relationship that lacks respect. A relationship that destroys the woman's self-worth. A relationship that is devoid of everything a beautiful relationship should be. A relationship in chains.
And where is Love in this whole equation?
A healthy relationship should have open communication as its foundation, where both partners can feel comfortable expressing their opinions and desires to each other. Bottling up how you feel inside and letting him get his way every time, especially if he's wrong is something unimaginable. How can one ever be happy in that type of marriage? No way! It is impossible!
How do I hide something that's bothering me because I'm afraid to upset him?
How can I be afraid to express myself because he might not like it?
How can I give up my identity, my desires, my preferences, everything that I am, on the altar of....what exactly? Love?
The truth is that I cannot be into a relationship where I am not happy, the worst being an emotionally abusive one as this.
The most important thing for me, in a relationship is to be myself, I should be honest and give my own opinion wherever necessary. I do believe in compromises and finding a middle ground around issues but definitely not a situation where one person's desires dominate while the other’s voice is suppressed. No! I'd choose to be free in love, not in chains!
I should unapologetically be a woman who sets boundaries and demands self-respect… not be as spineless as to allow a harmful relationship, which creates an imbalance and chips away at my self-esteem.
To be a doormat can never be my choice, so long story short, no, I can never be a 'yes' woman because I wont find fulfillment and happiness in that.
If who I am and what I believe makes him turn away from me, then I have my answer, we were never meant to be and that relationship isn't worth my time one bit!
This is in response to a contest by Ladies Of Hive Community #204, you can find it
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