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Life has so many teachers, and disappointment is one of those teachers; it comes with so much pain, frustration, and self-doubt, but within this ambush lies an opportunity for growth and a chance to also turn everything around to our own benefit.

I have had my own fair share of disappointments from moments when I had felt stuck to moments when plans failed and missed opportunities that would have turned a lot of things around for us.

These were times when I felt so overwhelmed by everything, and I would decide to give up on everything before it gave up on me, creating tough questions about my path and my decision to follow that life's route in the first place.

But now when I look back, I see how much help the disappointments I had faced have been to me, shaping me into someone I never viewed myself as from my past.

When disappointments occur, it is very important to acknowledge the fact that it happened and the even bigger fact that I am a human who should experience things like this once in a while to test my ground and see if I was still standing strong or if the moment of plenty had taken away my ability to face what life's throwing at me.

We process the setback to pick out points where we can improve upon to prevent subsequent situations like that from hitting us hard.

We don't have to hide the emotion because that's another thing that makes us human; we pour out our hearts in pain, acknowledging the marks that this disappointing setback has left behind, either physical or emotional signs.

Then finding the lesson is very important. I am not talking about preventing disappointments because it's part of life, although there are decisions we take that prevent us from being at the receiving end of disappointments, but I prefer the question that first comes to our mind after we've experienced some kind of disappointment. One popular question holds us back while the other helps us heal.

We have to shift our minds from "why me" to "lessons I can pick up from that disappointment." The first question keeps us within a shell because the answer almost never comes, and it is almost impossible to come out of that shadow once we are caught in it; meanwhile, the other question helps our mind wander away from the dark side of the event to the more positive aspects of things.

I want to round it up with a few moments of my life that I was terribly disappointed in 😞 to the extent where I didn't think positively at all, and the only question that came out of my mouth was, Why did this happen to me and not someone else?" When you look at this question, you will see that there are a lot of things wrong with the question, and selfishness, jealousy, and greediness are gently being echoed underneath it.

When I finished my basic education, I was meant to proceed to secondary school like we do in Nigeria, but then so many things came up that made me sit at home for two years without going to school. By this point, my mates were already two classes ahead of me when I came back.

It felt so difficult because I just couldn't associate with my friends anymore because of the class difference, thinking about what they would feel or say about the whole situation since we were no longer at the same educational level, but now when I look back at this after completing my degree, I reconcile the fact that I was really childish and irrespective of my class at that point, I would have kept some friends.

Now the setback was that my time in primary school wasn't really promising, and my grades just weren't good enough, but after those two years at home, I came back with so much hunger to do well because I saw how much playing around had caused me.

My grades improved so drastically that it helped me until I finished my first degree. Looking back, I wonder what would have happened if I hadn't experienced that disappointment; I probably would have dropped out of school on my own without anyone forcing me to.

Always Pick up lessons from your past, adapt, and move forward into greater things, and you will be glad you did; all you need is strength and persistence, and things will get better.

Accept the lessons that setbacks teach you and allow them to make you a more resilient, astute, and driven person.

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