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Have you ever been in a situation where a friend confided in you about something that might hurt or even take the life of someone you know?
This is a very delicate issue that will definitely severe a relationship if not managed well.
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What will you do
Years ago I found myself in a situation whereby a friend told me a secret that he never wanted me to spell out to anyone but this secret would definitely ruin someone's life or even take her life, honestly it was a difficult situation for me to handle, let's see what the secret was all about.
As a nurse A friend came to me confiding in me that he was HIV positive and at that point in time he was dating a friend of mine and he never wanted her to know that he had HIV infection.
We all know that HIV is a viral disease that can be contacted through sexual intercourse and if not managed to well it can mature to AIDs and it can also kill, now this friend of mine doesn't want her girlfriend to know about this, he trusted me with this information and on the other hand if our friend doesn't get to know she will definitely contact it and if she doesn't take care of herself medically it's going to get to the point that she might lose her life.
I got confused I didn't know what to do, I thought about this matter for days, I called the guy and I asked her his reasons for not telling his girlfriend about his present medical condition, he said that he's afraid that the girl might leave her on the other hand he doesn't want the girl to know that he cheated on her, I tried to explain to him reasons why you should tell the girl her present situation I even let him know that telling the girl is one way to show that he really loves the girl and wants the girl to live but this guy refused and he pleaded with me not to let the girlfriend know.
Hmmmmm as a medical personnel I knew the importance of keeping a patient secret I am not allowed to tell anyone about a patient medical condition if he didn't give me the authority to do so that my lead to me losing my license as a nurse, for over a week I couldn't sleep because deep down my heart I knew that someone is going to die if I don't spell out this secret so I made up my mind to face whatever comes out of it.
Firstly I went to my medical director and told him what I was facing and he reminded me the consequences of what I'm about to do which I already knew, I told him that I have to save this life because not just that this girl in question is my friend but also she's a living soul and I know the value God placed on human life and God will not be happy with me knowing that I could have saved this girl life.
Some questions were moving around my mind like how will she react? Hope she want spread the news which might cause further problems? What if she decide to leave the guy how will I handle such situation because definitely the guy will be frustrated and he will have me to blame.
I wanted to see advice from people but telling someone is as good as spelling out the secret so what should I do since I can't determine or control how she will react should I just allow The dying dog to lie or should I just go ahead and save someone's life, remember time is going.
Finally.
Finally I musterd up courage and I called the guy and told him that I was going to tell the girl if he by himself doesn't find a way to tell the young girl and save her life, at this point I told him that I can't allow that young girl to die or to get to a point where her life cannot be saved because of I want to keep your secret, he's still insisted and I told him I am going to tell the girl.
So I called the girl to my house and I pleaded with her to promise me that she won't react negatively over what I'm about to tell her, she made a promise though I wasn't convinced because I knew what I was about to tell her her wasn't easy to digest, immediately I told her she started crying and I told her that is not the end of her life that she can still live long but first things first she need to do a medical test to know if she has the infection then if she really had the infection, we'll find a way to manage its medically.
The outcome.
She went home, meet him and they both had a big quarrel and the guy came back to me threatening to report me to the council of nurses and I was ready to face the consequences after explaining to him my reasons of doing what I did, the girl did a medical check up unfortunately she had HIV and she was heartbroken because she has always been faithful to this guy but that wasn't the issue at hand the issue was how to manage her for the rest of her Life.
Finally they both got married and they have three children and they are living together happily till this day managing their health.
Secrets are are very difficult to handle especially when life is involved
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