There is this thought that goes through my mind every time that maybe I have things figured out and I already have everything planned and everything will become easier if I do it this way, that way. The end result is going to be good. I've told myself that I'm going to learn the right skills, find the right opportunities, be better in making more good decisions and everything will surely come falling into places.
That is a very good theory I must say, but reality has other plans for me. Over the years, the hardest part of growing is accepting that the kind of person that you were before might not take you to where you want to go and that is a truth that is so uncomfortable. For me, changing direction in career has been one of the most uncomfortable growth methods I've ever faced.
My starting came from crypto content writing, to web design, to website development and now I'm in AI automations and artificial intelligence and the likes. It might look exciting but over the years, the processes are not a child's play. New tools are coming every day, skills, endless possibilities.
So I've come to know that being good at something yesterday did not automatically make me good at what I wanted to do tomorrow. I have to start afresh and begin again. Just imagine you are spending years and you are becoming comfortable with a particular skill.
Just wake up the next day, find out that the world has changed and moved on from where you are. Your experience actually is a very good thing and it matters. But if you just have to obscure and you are back to watching tutorial videos, make more mistakes, test this, test that, ask a lot of questions, do a lot of research, that in itself can humble you.
Another uncomfortable lesson that I'm passing through is the reality that being busy doesn't necessarily mean that you are making a progress. It's possible to spend hours and hours in research and nothing comes out of it despite all the tutorial, the resources, the exploration and many more. At the end of the day you can feel busy, tired but nothing has been achieved and that's an uncomfortable truth.
But what you have learned is that the growth that comes out of that is that you have learned another way why it can't be possible. That's the beauty of it. Sometimes when I look at all what I've accomplished, I realize that it is much more of information than practice and that's not a very good thing to admit.
I feel so uncomfortable with that. So it means that sometimes I have to stop doing what feels enjoyable and start doing what actually moves me forward. I've also learned that growth changes people.
How you relate with people too depends on the kind of growth that you are passing through. Not every friend is going to remain the same over the years and as time goes on some conversation will not interest you anymore. Priorities changes in life and certain environments might no more be able to continue.
I disagree with people that say that growth means treating people badly. Oh well, that makes you better than anyone. But I do believe that you must sometimes create that constant pull away from your own goals.
That is not an easy thing to accomplish. But discomfort is very necessary for personal growth sometimes. I don't think that people need to suffer before everything becomes better.
Though religion, lots of religion has taught us about how we have to be suffering before the end is going to begin. It's not everything. Pain does not mean progress.
That you're staying in an unhealthy situation just because it's difficult does not make someone that very strong. That does not mean that we shouldn't look at meaningful changes that is required to do things that looks so unfamiliar. Learning a new skill can be very uncomfortable, including starting a business.
Honest conversation sometimes can be uncomfortable and admitting that you are wrong is an uncomfortable thing to say that whatever comes out of your mouth in order to say sorry. Even a double thinking or a deep thought about what I am doing and accepting that I need to start again. That is an uncomfortable thing in itself.
And that is where the important lesson of life is hiding. The ability to sit with the uncomfortable groups and find some way out of it. Face the reality it is.
These days, I'm not afraid to be a beginner anymore. And I'm less attached to familiar routines. And I'm more willing to take actions.
Even when I am certain about the outcome, I still have a lot to figure out. I still make mistakes, yes. I still have days when I wonder whether I am moving in the right direction.
But I'm learning not to confuse discomfort with failure. Sometimes the kind of life that you want is requiring a different person, not your current person. And that is the challenge of growth.
Because you are not just changing circumstances, you are changing yourself as well.
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