How to be happy? Really? I don't think happiness has some lined-up steps. Sometimes, the very things that make us happy may not give us the joy we desired. Happiness is more than the doing and more about the choices we make in life. We all have one thing that troubles us, and that's fine. I've learned that no man truly has it all—we all suffer from one issue or another, regardless of our socioeconomic status. I once asked my brother what he believed about rest and happiness, and his answer changed how I see life and happiness entirely.
He said, "The only time a man truly rests or is finally free from life's worries is when he's dead." Not like we can't be happy, but worries and sadness are part of life, and the only solution to still having a smile on our faces is the choices that we make. What we choose at every moment determines if we stay happy or burden ourselves with loads of worries. While we might feel like our situation is the worst, we sometimes learn that there are people whose problems surpass ours, and they still manage to put a smile on their faces—not because they're not bothered, but because they chose peace over worries.
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For example, we apply for a job and we are not selected for employment. Some people may become worried and bothered about it, while some feel no worries. They all applied for the same job and were all not selected, yet not everyone is bothered—all because their choices differed. Some might have made it worse by telling themselves they weren't good and that's why they weren't selected, and another may believe there's something better that awaits him or that the job wasn't meant for him. Two people with two different choices and thoughts. So in the matter of happiness, our choices and thoughts play a vital role.
Whenever life's vicissitudes hit, I always find a positive choice of thinking to adopt. I don't allow the situation or circumstances to weigh me down; rather, I fill my head with positive thoughts. Let's say I fail an examination and I notice it's beginning to bother me. I'll tell myself that failure doesn't decide my future and probably find references to great men who failed in the past but became icons. Or I'm financially unstable—I tell myself it's a matter of time and nothing lasts forever. There's always a positive thought that backs up every struggling moment, and I use them to remain happy.
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