There are different types of givers and the reactions they expect from people whom they've given to. While some people may not make noise about it, others may expect a certain kind of loyalty. It could range from a simple thank you to demanding certain respect. Some believe one is indebted to them because of a favour they once did to that individual and feel offended once the person does otherwise. I've seen a woman who went about boasting about how she was the reason a certain woman was living comfortably. To her, the woman would still be roaming the street if she hadn't assisted her financially.
I believe the woman felt humiliated and maybe at one point wished she hadn't accepted such a favour from her. Scenarios like this could make anyone reconsider accepting certain gifts, especially if they believe it would come with disrespect. People desire peace and not disrespect. Some would even turn down favours if they perceive disrespect would come with it, while some people may choose to suffer in silence or suffer worse than accepting a gift or offering that doesn't promise peace. No one likes to be disrespected, especially one whose self-pride matters to him. Even the so-called shameless people get hurt if humiliation comes from what they believe to have been a gift.
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Personally, I wouldn't accept a gift from someone who demands certain allegiance from me, especially if it's inconvenient for me. I don't believe one needs to devalue his worth because of a gift. Yes, we all need help—everyone does—but what benefit does one have if humiliation comes with it? I would rather manage the little I have with my worth unaltered than to have abundance that comes with disrespect. No man wants that, not even the smallest in a group.
The Yoruba people are good when it comes to giving thanks after a certain favour. I remember a few times I got certain items for my landlady's child. She never stopped thanking me, and I even got tired of her daily appreciation at one point. While others may enjoy the daily appreciation, I wasn't used to such kind of appreciation. It was strange to me, but I still understood it was part of their culture. People who are used to this frequent appreciation may feel offended if it's not done. We are different, and we desire different things, but when it comes to disrespect after a gift, most people would choose their peace.
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