The Practice I Hate During Wedding
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Weddings are special events, it's one of the occasions everyone longs to experience in their lives because it comes only once in a lifetime, after which you can only attend that of others and not yours again.
I am a very shy person, and going to crowded places is part of the things I find very difficult. I have this bad attitude of losing peace whenever I am in a crowd. So I try my best to avoid big occasions.
Anytime I failed to attend any wedding I was invited to, my mom would scold me saying, "If you don't attend the weddings of others, no one will attend yours." At first, I was not in agreement with the statement but I later reasoned it and it made some sense.
Let's even forget about people coming or not coming, it's bad to ignore people's invitations and expect them to honor yours. That's not fair, in fact, it means you don't cherish them. So, I had to learn to start attending weddings.
The first wedding I attended as an adult was like I was compelled, the groom had to give me a role to play in order to pin me there, or else I would have left after they finished tying the knot in the church.
After spending some time at the reception ground, I was grateful I stayed because I enjoyed the occasion.
Everything that has to do with the gathering of people always has some practices that are uncalled for, though they may look innocent and acceptable to others.
One of the things I dislike about weddings is the way people spread money on the couple.
I have been to a few weddings where some people slap couples with money, some place it on their bodies as if they want to gum it on their skins.
It's not bad to spread money but it should be done with respect and caution. We don't even know where some of that money is coming from.
This is Nigeria, and a lot of funny things happen, I've heard of weddings where people come and spread money with negative intentions and after that, the bride, never conceived.
Must we rain the money on them? For me, if it were possible, I would have preferred a basket or something provided for anybody to drop whatever he wants to give.
If you feel you want to come and show your face, it's okay, come and drop the money in the basket and greet the couple, they will see you. You can as well dance all that you want with the couple and leave.
Two hundred naira that someone would just drop and go, some people will go and exchange it with five or ten Naira so that it will be much and they will take a very long period of time spreading, what's bad if you just go and give them the two hundred and leave? Will they beat you?
It's what you have, give joyfully, some people will say people will notice I have only a little, who cares? Moreover, it's a gift, no one has the right to decide what you give out as a gift.
Whether you made the change and gathered five Naira in a bunch or just gave the two hundred Naira, in the end, it's still the same thing, so why show off?
Some people use that medium to make others feel intimidated and also to get praise from people and to be honest, I am not pleased with it.
If you have anything to give just go and drop it and walk away. It will even save time and make the occasion close on time. There are so many crazy things we do in this part of the world that I am still wondering where we got the initiative from.
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