Let’s all pause for a minute and think. Why will anyone say love is not enough for a marriage to work? Well, that for me is due to some obvious reasons, but the major reason is that, we are defining love based on our human knowledge. And, that’s why I’m here to remind you, so it’s cool. Love is a lot of things as people will want to define it but then, let me also remind you that in one of those many definitions, Love is God. And when it comes to any relationship at all, especially marriage, if you are defining love as something else besides that, you are obviously going to get a lot of things wrong.
Now, let’s ask that question again, Is love enough? I’m very sure you must have given a solid yes to it or not, well that’s on you. So, let’s talk about marriage a little. I’m not married but then, I have seen a lot of marriages, I have heard stories and I have read if not any book, the Holy Bible about what marriage is, and how it should be according to the one who designed it. The truth is, to an extent, it is safe to say marriage is one of the most hardest union to make work today but that is not necessarily because it is hard, it is only because, we fail to use the manual from the manufacturer.
Most times, as humans we try to play smart and think we know better but guess what? It’s only a matter of time before we know better. Personally, I know how many times I try to couple a product together without looking at the manual and I only remember there is a manual when I have tried multiple times and failed, which is what most of us do today. We only run back to the manufacturer’s manual when we have tried multiple times and it does not work out. And sadly, we do that a lot even with marriage, so I wonder why we think everything will work out well.
Okay, I think that is more than enough on marriage. Let’s talk about love. The Oxford Dictionary defines love as "A strong feeling of affection, attachment, or devotion to a person, place, or thing." The Holy Bible defines describes love as "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." Now, when we compare these two definitions, we can see that the actual love we all wish for is the one the Bible describes but then, we still view love as a strong feeling of affection, attachment and what have you.
Anyways, let’s move to the next. What is a prenuptial agreement? According to the Oxford Dictionary, a prenuptial agreement is "A formal agreement made between two people before they get married, typically dealing with financial matters and the division of property in the event of divorce or death." Based on this definition, I see so many things not right about the whole idea about this relating to what marriage should be. Marriage, according to the Designer, is a union that makes a man and a woman one. What does this tells us? If you are not ready to be one with another person then you shouldn’t be thinking about marriage.
Where am I going with all of these? Well, I’m just trying to draw us back to the manual we’ve neglected for too long. Because the truth is, more terms will keep coming up as long as we choose to ignore the actual pattern of things. Interestingly, the more we ignore the manual, the more we will keep struggling to couple things well and at some point we might just settle for whatever we see. Remember, a prenuptial agreement is a “Formal Agreement” and now I’m wondering how you’d be formal with yourself because, if you are formal with your husband or wife, it means you are formal with yourself. If peradventure you are actually formal with yourself, you know that is not really okay.
In marriage, everything changes. You no longer think for yourself alone, you think for two. You no longer do whatever makes you happy, you do what makes two happy. In marriage there is no room to be selfish, the moment you become selfish, the moment the whole idea stops making sense. Just know that, as long as you have the manufacturer’s manual and you follow through with it, you will get the desired look of what you ordered. Trust me, at first it will seem so difficult but it will definitely get easier as long as you follow the instructions rightly.
So, yes, love is enough because having love means you have all the detailed guidelines of what you need to make your marriage work and that is because, Love is God and he has given us directions on how to go about things. Mind you, I would have easily made my opinion about this but then, I didn’t invent marriage so my opinion doesn’t count, oops!
Thanks for reading through. ❤️
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