Some life questions scare me more than anything, one of these life questions is the popular “Where do you see yourself in the next 5 or 10 years?”.
Whenever I am asked this question I am always speechless, I usually don’t know the perfect answer to this question and I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels the same way.
I remember when I usually felt bad for not being able to know what I wanted to do with my life completely or what direction my life was going.
I remember how I always admired people who had it all figured out. People who have a well laid out plan and were working towards them. I saw these people as being purposeful while I felt so purposeless and stupid.
I felt so empty, I was doing fine quite alright and I didn’t have to bother about being broke or experiencing any difficulty with life but then again I didn’t have any clear-cut goal that I had set in place for my future other than me wanting to be successful and happy and I saw that as being too basic as everyone wanted that too.
There were no deadlines, no yardsticks to aptly describe how successful I was or wanted to be and this didn’t sit well with me.
I always avoided this particular question and good thing that my not going for interviews saved me as I wouldn’t have been able to avoid answering this question.
This kept happening for a very long time and it resulted in me belittling my little wins. My family and friends would always commend me for doing great but I’d always shrug it off because to me I needed a grand plan to help measure how successful I was.
All of this changed when a random acquaintance of mine took the time to dissect what being purposeful and successful meant and I got to understand that my challenge wasn’t unique.
According to her “You don’t have to have it all figured out now”.
These words of hers have been stuck in my head for years.
I don’t need to know what I want to be in the next 5 years heck I don’t even need to know what I want to be in a year just yet as it gets clearer as I go and it sure does.
Even though I feel a certain way whenever I am faced with this question, right now I can boldly say that I have stopped belittling my wins and it’s been an amazing journey thus far.
I heard this amazing song today that aptly described the feeling of emptiness and hope and I couldn’t help but share it with you all as someone out there needs to know that whatever they are feeling isn’t foreign or peculiar to them.
The title of this beautiful song is No Easy Way Out by Jon Mullins and was released early this year.
It’s amazing how a song can move from the speakers of one’s phone to piercing one’s heart.
Sometimes it's not the old me that I miss
I miss the person that I dreamed I'd get to be
What happens if this season never ends
And what if it becomes my identity
While we all have dreams and aspirations from when we were little it’s okay if we aren’t going through that path right now, it’s okay if we're doing something other than what we envisaged would be our narrative, but the most important part is that you are evolving and becoming a better version of yourself.
What if you don’t get it all figured out before your deadline or society’s unrealistic deadlines? What if you take forever to get to the point you want to be? Does that make you less human or a failure? Hell No!
We are all working in different time zones and when it’s your time to shine, you’ll surely shine and stand out as long as you are putting in the work and are on the right path.
To everyone who is dealing with an identity crisis, I just want you to know that you’ll get through this phase, it’s just a phase and not the end, you'll move past it someday, so don't completely write yourself off.
If you need to listen to a beautiful song today or any other day I recommend No Easy Way Out by Jon Mullins and I promise you you’d be glad that you did.
Thanks for stopping by
Loads of Love🥰🥰
XOXO
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