Its crazy how 11 months has gone by already.

This time of the year is always the scariest for me because I often find myself sitting and trying to be accountable for the things I did, the things I didn't do, and the things I should have done better.

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Growth is slow, and sometimes even uncomfortable, but it becomes more apparent in the tiny little decisions that we make daily. As living things we tend to change and there a few things that I decided to drop-off over these past eleven months. Not big dramatic habits, just quiet things that took up mental space in my head without me even noticing.

Let me give a quick gist of the baggage that I have left behind.

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The first one was oversharing.

I am a simple person and you could almost call me an open book. I say how I feel in my head and I have no problem sharing my plans, wins and even my losses to people. But honestly, life has thought me to "keep quiet, sometimes, silence saves you."

You are saved from a lot of problem when you practice 'sharing less than necessary'.

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My new motto became: Aura for Aura

yeah, I understand that everyone has problems and are fighting silent battles but

if I can be open with you, support you, and make time for you, but you don't seem to see me and reciprocate the energy then I don't force it anymore. I began to prioritize my mental health more and give back the energy that is emitted at me.

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I'm not saying I will stop helping or I will help just because I want something in return. But I have just learnt that not everybody deserves your time and energy. I will help if I have the power and convenience to but going out of my way or convenience to do something for a person depends on how they have treated me too. Everyone doesn't deserve full access.

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From my introspection, the last thing I could say I dropped was expecting more from people.

This one hurt the most. This is a mistake people often make and your mental health pays the price. I expected certain actions from people and I ended up getting disappointed and hurt. I won't lie, it really messed up my head. I started feeling resentful, bitter and angry.

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To make sure that I felt more at peace myself, I stopped expecting people to act a certain way or do good to me.

Letting go of those expectations made my mind much lighter. Now I focus more on accepting people for who they are, not as I want them to be. I remind myself that I can control my actions but I have no control of their own.

These new paradigm has made me feel lighter, less frustrated, and more present.

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In these eleven months, dropping these habits has made my life feel more minimalist, not just in physical things, but mentally and emotionally.

I have channeled my energy in improving myself and becoming a better version of myself. I've created space for clear mind, healthier energy, and a positive thoughts. And for me, that's a win.

Thank You for Reading ♥💯

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