Sometimes, people confuse kindness with obligation, and that's where a sense of entitlement begins.
A recent experience really got me thinking about this. A friend of mine was invited to a coursemate's wedding. Mind you, they were just coursemates, not close friends or family. Like many guests, she decided to support him by giving him money as a wedding gift. She gave what she could afford, believing that a gift is exactly that a gift.
Not long after, the groom jokingly or so she thought told her the amount she gave was too small and that he was expecting the balance. She laughed it off because it sounded too ridiculous to be serious. After all, who asks someone to "top up" a gift?
Well, about a week later, this same guy actually showed up at my friend's shop to ask for the "balance." At that point, I couldn't keep myself from laughing. I genuinely thought it was a joke until he proved he meant every word.
That experience perfectly sums up what entitlement looks like. A gift should come from the heart, not from pressure or expectation. No one owes you a certain amount because they attended your celebration. Whatever someone gives should be appreciated, whether it's big or small. Gratitude costs nothing, but demanding more can cost you respect.
It's one thing to hope people will support you during important moments in your life. It's another thing entirely to feel entitled to dictate how much they should give. That kind of mindset turns a kind gesture into an obligation, and it takes away the joy of giving.
We should know that people give based on their willingness and their capacity, not based on anyone else's expectations. Whether someone gives a lot, a little, or simply shows up to celebrate with you, the appropriate response is "thank you" not "where's the balance?" Or what you give me is small without a simple thank you.
Honestly, I still laugh whenever I remember the story. Imagine chasing a coursemate for the "balance" of a wedding gift! Some situations are so unbelievable that they sound made up, but they remind us why gratitude will always be more attractive than entitlement.
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