1️⃣ Changes are inevitable, but sometimes we find it difficult to adapt to them. Was there a circumstance or a sudden change that impacted your life, routine, or lifestyle? How did you deal with it? Did you have a hard time? Please share the story.
I had a sudden change in my life that really impacted my lifestyle. Dealing with this sudden change wasn't so rosy, but I learned from the experience and became stronger and wiser. Originally, I didn't marry a wealthy man, but my husband wasn't poor either. He is hardworking and earns just enough to take care of me and the kids. He is also the type who carries people's burden as if it were his. He can spend his savings just to save a situation. He treats his friends as if they are his blood brothers and discusses his plans with them. This was one side of him I didn't like, and I remember drawing his attention to the way he shares his future plans with people he thinks are his close friends. As if I saw the future, this particular action of his backfired and turned things upside down for us at home.
Being a practicing civil engineer, he gets building contracts here in Lagos State, where we reside, and sometimes gets contracts outside the state. One of the times he got a contract outside the state, he decided to gift it to one of his friends in the same profession. The guy began the project, but it turned out that he wasn't so good with the profession. The owner of the project wasn't pleased with my husband and told him to employ an experienced engineer to take over the project instead. My husband didn't want his friend to feel bad by taking away the project completely from him; instead, he employed a more experienced engineer and asked the two of them to handle the project and share the profit. That was all, and the friend got offended. He called my husband on the phone and started threatening to deal with him.
At first, we thought he was joking, and then my husband quickly traveled to go see the project and the situation. Surprisingly, the friend got him arrested. My husband was confused about the whole situation. He got a job and handed it over to him, but he couldn't deliver, and then he employed another person, and you got offended. At the police station, the policemen didn't even allow my husband to spend more than an hour there after hearing the story. The friend was annoyed and decided to visit the native doctor instead.
One early morning, while we were still sleeping, a strange number called my husband, and when he picked up, he introduced himself as the native doctor and commanded my husband to appear in his alter within 3 days or else he would die. At this point, I knew that the matter was taking on a different dimension. Another person called my husband and began to tell him how that same friend was threatening publicly to make life miserable for my husband. He also disclosed the business plans my husband shared with him and said that they would never happen under his watch. In summary, he soiled his hands, moving from one native doctor to another with the plan of ruining the life of my husband.
Not quite long after, things started turning upside down for hubby. Unimaginable problems from left and right attracted millions of naira. Suddenly, his Boss started developing hatred for him for no just reason. Someone to whom he was relating so well, and at a point, his Boss served him a termination letter. The problem was unfolding every day until hubby had no dime in his bank account or inside his physical wallet. I knew that I was in a total mess. To say that I was praying so hard is an understatement, but yet, things weren't changing for the better.
I later opened up to my family and some prayer groups in my church, and everyone was assisting me with the spiritual exercise. Hubby was going crazy, totally depressed, and wanted to run mad. He was already complaining about his head and talking out of point. Every financial load landed on my head suddenly. Will I say I wasn't prepared for this? I was. I had always had an open mind to whatever life threw at me, but sincerely, the situation was more than I could control. My lifestyle changed, and I began to do up to five businesses at a time. I had so many sleepless nights trying to make ends meet for my kids and husband. Living in Lagos is too expensive, and it made the experience for me look so hard to cope with. What I learned again was to open up to friends and my family, and indeed, they came through for me.
After some months, it looked as if the veil covering my husband was unveiled, and he began gaining his foot again. Even though things have been quite far better, the lifestyle of multitasking and engaging in different businesses to earn and live better in this life has remained in me. The experience too taught my husband never to disclose his future plans with friends because, of course, not everyone we call friends is truly happy with our progress. The sudden change from abundance to lack wasn't an easy phase, but I scaled through, and it made me stronger.
This is my entry for Ladies of hive contest #190
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