In everything you do in life, always choose yourself because no matter how good you treat people, they will still trample on you when they have the chance to do that. Why did I say that? We as humans value relationships more than the others. There are some sets of people in that truly know what true friendship means, while some do not. The only thing they know and understand is that they just want to be in your space and be able to milk from what you have, and one of the things they need is not there again; they vanish for good, leaving you to be by yourself.
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I had an encounter with a lady sometime in the early period of this year. One thing I have learned is that everyone we know well today and we call our friend started to be a stranger to us. The closer we get to them daily, the more we tend to understand the kind of person they are, their do's and the don'ts, and we tend to understand their boundaries and ensure that we do not cross them no matter how close we are to them. The more we do daily activities together, the better we tend to understand ourselves, and when we do not, we know what the person likes to do and all sorts of things.
But when you are just a stranger with someone, and after some time they become friends with you because the person decided to hold the friendship together. And then the person that has been holding the friendship noticed that you on the other side as a friend are bridging some lines that he or she does not like and calls you to order. I don't think the person has done too much because this is what they don't like, and they were very brave to have stood up and make it clear. But what about when the person speaks up and the other friends try to be defensive because he or she is not seeing anything bad in what has been done.
One thing I know is that, when you respect people, automatically you will be respected because respect calls for respect. If you behave so rudely to people, people will never see you as someone worth that respect because you have not showcased it. When talking about respect, it is not something we beg for; rather, it is something that we put pressure on to get. That is why we must always stay in a place where we are respected and valued, not something we have to beg to fit into.
When you feel dispected after you have expressed yourself to someone and still the person does not try to make amends, it is better you just walk away and leave the person because such a person does not value their relationship with you. People only turn up for those they value. Regardless of your character, those that value you will always value you, and when you tell them about something you are not okay with, they will never stress you about it because they respect your decision. No matter how hard or tough it might sound or look, always stay where you are valued.
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