Hello Hives,
One thing I have been learning as I grow older is that not everything people tell me deserves my reaction.
There was a time when somebody could come to me and say, “I heard something about you,” and I would immediately want to know what happened. Sometimes, I would even start thinking differently about the person involved without taking a moment to ask myself whether the story was actually true.
Looking back, I realise how much unnecessary stress can come from listening to things that we have no proof of.
There are four statements I now try to be very careful with:
“I heard…”
“I was told…”
“They said…”
“They are saying…”
These four sentences may sound harmless, but they can create serious problems if we are not careful.
Imagine someone comes to you and says, “I heard that your friend was talking badly about you.”
Immediately, your mood changes.
You start remembering old things that happened between you and that person. You begin to suspect them. Maybe you even confront them angrily.
But what if the person who brought the information misunderstood what they heard?
What if the story was completely false?
That is where I think we need to be more careful.
I have learned that people will always talk. Sometimes they talk because they are concerned, sometimes because they misunderstood something, and sometimes simply because they enjoy gossip.
But I don't have to carry every story someone brings to me.
If somebody tells me, “They said this about you,” my first thought should not be anger. I should ask myself, Did I hear this directly? Do I have any reason to believe it?
If the answer is no, then why should I allow it to disturb me?
This doesn't mean we should ignore everything people tell us. There are situations where someone's warning can genuinely help us. But even then, I believe it is better to check the facts before making a decision.
Life is already demanding enough. We have our families, work, responsibilities, bills, plans and personal struggles to deal with. Adding unnecessary drama because of something somebody “heard” is not always worth it.
These days, I would rather focus on what I know than spend my time trying to figure out what “they are saying.”
Sometimes, keeping quiet is better than joining an argument you don't understand.
Sometimes, walking away is better than proving a point.
And sometimes, simply saying “I don't know, so I won't judge” can save you from a lot of trouble.
We cannot control what people say about us.
But we can control what we choose to believe, what we react to, and what we allow into our lives.
For me, that is a lesson worth remembering.
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